Help Our Injured Veterans To Rediscover A Life Filled With Passion, Purpose, And Pleasure
Join The Love Cry 28 Day Challenge
Can you even begin to comprehend what a life without intimacy would be like? Just imagine never really connecting with someone special again or experiencing another touch, embrace, or kiss… Unfortunately, this is the silent battle many of our wounded warriors face when they return home. And it’s time for someone to speak up. That’s why we’re initiating a dialogue for this taboo topic.
The Love Cry 28 Day Challenge is an interactive movement designed to support the mission of “Making Love After Making War," a documentary that tells the stories of injured vets who have won the battle for love after returning home.
The challenge is a dare for those who are brave enough to get emotionally vulnerable on camera. Show up and show out. The more outrageous your cry, the better.
Simply get on screen and declare your love for someone. It can be a lover, friend, relative… Heck, you can even profess your love for yourself. It’s up to you whether you perform the cry sitting down, dancing in the street, shouting from the top of a building, sipping a latte, or lounging in a library. Make it your own. Who knows. You might reconnect with an old flame or get a proposal out the deal. ;)
If you’re ready for combat, the rules of engagement are listed below:
- Get on camera and boldly profess your undying love for someone or something
- Make your love cry anywhere between 30 seconds and 3 minutes
- Only dedicate your love cry to one person at a time
- Nominate 3 or more people you would like to participate in the challenge by stating their name(s) on camera and tagging them.
- The nominee has the option to perform the challenge or forfeit by donating a minimum of $10 to the “Making Love After Making War” project.
- Encourage donations to the project even if you participate in the challenge
- Donate Today
- End your love cry with this signature phrase:
- “Donate to help our injured vets with making love after making war.”
- Share your video using #LoveCry
"Failed intimate relationships contribute significantly to suicide, intimate partner
violence and child abuse, reduced quality-of-life, homelessness, and substance abuse."
The RAND report Invisible Wounds of War: Psychological and Cognitive Injuries, Their Consequences, and Services to Assist Recovery (2008)
“We were concerned about what our relationship would be like. We had always wanted to start a family”
Veteran Aaron Causey and spouse Kat Causey, on adjusting to catastrophic injury.
Love After War will showcase the real stories of individuals and couples who are surviving and thriving after catastrophic combat-related injuries. In their own words these folks will share how they overcame relationship issues and restored emotional closeness and physical intimacy. The documentary will also feature professional insights from experts in the field of sexuality and disability.
VETERANS AND LOVED ONES
Army Sgt. 1st Class Aaron Causey, an explosives technician with 760th Explosive Ordnance Disposal Company, suffered multiple limb loss, extensive genital injuries, and TBI after stepping on an IED in Afghanistan. He was married to Kat Causey for 18 months when he was injured. They decided to pursue having a child using assistive reproductive technology before separating from the military in order to have their expenses covered. They now have a beautiful baby girl.
Tyler Wilson, a young 20 year-old Paratrooper serving with the US Army’s 173rd Airborne Brigade, single at the time, was shot multiple times during a firefight in southern Afghanistan resulting in spinal cord injury and lung damage. He is now 31, recently married to Crystal, a recreational therapist he met in a handcycle clinic, and, at the time of filming, had a baby on the way with the help of IVF and many friends. Crystal has since given birth to a healthy baby boy.
CBRN (Chemical, Biological, Radiological, and Nuclear) specialist Manny Gonzalez was 20 years old, single, and serving in Marine Wing Support Squadron 372 when he suffered second and third degree burns to 80 percent of his body including his face while rescuing a fellow Marine from a brush fire during a routine training exercise. It took him 16 years to get the confidence up to ask someone out on a date. He is now 40 years old, married for two years with two stepchildren and a 19- month old son.
United States Army Airborne Casey Kimes is 100% disabled secondary to PTSD and severe TBI along with hearing loss and multiple orthopedic injuries. Tai Tosombra experienced military sexual trauma (MST). Tai and Casey’s marriage was very strained after Casey’s first 18-month deployment when he returned home with undiagnosed PTSD. Eleven years later Casey’s Facebook page is located at Tai and Casey’s Love Shack.
John and Jasmine Fillmore both served but met and married after their service. John was shot in the head with an AK 47 round and suffered a TBI in addition to PTSD, anxiety, depression, mild hearing loss, some vision impairment and is at high risk for suicide. Jasmine experienced TBI and physical injuries secondary to MST where she was attacked from behind and hit on the head; she is blind, deaf, and has weakness in her legs. John met Jasmine in a Veterans outdoors program some dozen years after his injury and they were married nearly 8 months at the time of the interview.
Capt. Tim Hornik is blind as the result of getting shot through the head in Iraq. Coming back as a person with a disability instead of a strong, capable soldier, Tim took his anger and frustrations out on his wife. Through share stubbornness on both of their parts, they made it through the darkness. He and his wife are now happily married with a beautiful 8-year-old child and another one on the way.
Dr. Mitchell Tepper, Executive Producer/Producer/Writer
Dr. Mitchell Tepper is a sexologist who has been living a full life with spinal cord injury for nearly 35 years. He has long been personally and professionally dedicated to ending the silence around sexuality and disabilities. Dr. Tepper has been working with wounded veterans since speaking at the Road to Recovery Conference for wounded veterans in 2006. Through spearheading the Wounded Troops and Partners: Supporting Intimate Relationships Conference in Washington DC in 2008, he was successful in getting the issue of sexual health and intimacy for wounded warriors on the national radar. He assisted the Bob Woodruff Foundation in organizing their High Impact Collaboration Conference, From Injury to Intimacy, in 2014. He has been instrumental in the implementation of couple's retreats within the VA system and in training members of the Sexual Health and Intimacy Workgroup at Walter Reed National Military Medical Center. Dr. Tepper has published peer reviewed articles in medical and sexual health journals on comprehensive sexual health care for catastrophically injured warriors.
Dr. Tepper, producer of Love After War, has also produced the critically acclaimed Sex and Paralysis Video Series.
Dr. Mark Schoen, Director/Producer
Mark Schoen received a Ph.D. from New York University’s Human Sexuality program in 1980. While enrolled in New York University Schoen spent two summers in Uppsala, Sweden studying Sexual Health Education at Uppsala University. Working as a Health Educator in the early 1970’s in a New York public school system he developed a Sexual Health Program and began producing short films.
In 1979 Dr. Schoen established Focus International, a company devoted to producing and distributing sexual health films primarily to universities and clinicians. He produced many of the popular, early sex therapy films, wrote the children’s book, Bellybuttons Are Navels and produced the award winning film of the same title.
In 1998, The Sinclair Institute hired Dr. Schoen as Director of Sex Education. He moved from New York to Chapel Hill, North Carolina. From 1998 – 2006 he produced more than thirty films that are currently in distribution including the best selling revision of The Better Sex Video Series.
From 2006 – 2009 Schoen served as one of 16 members on the National Advisory Council on Sexual Health led by former U.S. Surgeon General Dr. David Satcher.
In 2007 Dr Schoen moved to Pasadena, CA started working as an Independent producer. During this time he produced and directed Betty Dodson: Her Life of Sex and Art. This film won Best Feature Documentary at FilmOut, San Diego (2008) and won The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists Best Film Award (2009)
Dr Schoen served on the Board of Directors of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (2007-2008) and continues to serve on the Board of the Foundation for the Scientific Study of Sexuality.
Dr. Schoen is the Founder of SexSmartFilms.com, an online resource for preserving, archiving and streaming sexual health films. There are currently more than 350 films that are being viewed worldwide.
He recently produced an animated short film The True Story of How Babies are Made that received the honorable mention from The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists Best Film Awards (2010).
Schoen received the Distinguished Public Service Award from the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (2010) and the AASECT (The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors) Professional Standards of Excellence Award (2010).
Dr. Schoen is quoted in many publications and has appeared on numerous television & radio shows during his career.
Antonio Garcia, DP and Editor of Pilot Interview
Antonio is a filmmaker at Georgia State University who has had three films shown at the Cannes International Film Festival.
The pilot interview for Love After War was chosen to be screened at the annual conference of the American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. Here's their reactions to the film represented in a word cloud: